In Kew Gardens

We all need dreams

When I was little, we lived in leafy Kew opposite the Botanical Gardens near London. ‘50s England was a time of innocence and unhurriedness.  Although the road we lived on was relatively quiet compared to now, it was classed as a ‘main’ road into London as perhaps one car would speed by at 40mph every minute or so.

There in our front garden, organizing my bears ready for a tea party, I would suddenly get the urge to go, just go – somewhere – anywhere.  So, with my favorite teddy under my arm, I would click open the gate and start walking, ever ready for adventure and the open road even then.


Many of us need some adventure in our lives, or a sense of it at least.  Maybe it starts when we are asked the question “And what do you want to be when you grow up?” though searching for an answer can lead us no further than previously explored territory.  I remember I wanted to be a part-time Vet and part-time Hairdresser; I stated this firmly aged about 5.  Without the benefit of the world-wide web, this was the extent of my wishful experience at that point; I loved animals and cutting my own and my dolls’ hair.


As soon as I was allowed to, I would take myself off to school by bus (this was the ‘50s, remember).  I suppose this was the conscious beginning of my fascination with exploration.  I would try to discover a different way home every day, sometimes by bus, sometimes walking for hours, always somehow knowing which way to go.  As I was still only about 7 years old, my mother  would understandably be frantic, but that did not seem to make any difference to whether I could go alone the next day or not; unimaginable behaviour nowadays, of course.


We all need dreams – dreams keep hope alive and fresh.  Without hope we can fester, stagnate and die; whether figuratively or literally.  Without hope we have no meaningful reason to get up in the mornings; if we are simply putting one foot in front of the other without hoping there could be something better ‘just around the corner’ life becomes intolerable.  In our hearts we believe we are all unique.

Many of us know we have a ‘calling’ but cannot remember it or have never permitted ourselves the luxury of acknowledging it, believing ourselves to be unworthy, perhaps.


Too often, we spend our lives living either in the past or the future, reminiscing how it used to be or dreaming of how it could be. There’s a reason for this.  When we experience ourselves being fully in the present – often at moments of extreme pleasure or pain – it throws into sharp relief anything that is lacking in our lives and gives us pause for too much thought.

This can cause us such grief that we then block ourselves off from our true feelings, our hopes and dreams, and deny ourselves the opportunity of grasping life by the scruff and living it fully on an ongoing basis.


If the purpose of life is to have experiences and serve the planet, then a lot of us are missing the mark completely by not following our dreams.  This is where the skills of a Life Coach can help – by introducing and opening up new pathways and guiding the client to experience more fulfilling ‘now’ moments.

If you are ready to follow your dream, I can help you.  Contact me for a Free Exploratory Session.  I look forward to hearing from you!




PS: In retrospect, I’m glad I decided against becoming a Vet, but I still like to cut my own hair from time to time!  How do you follow your dreams?  Please leave your comments below…


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